PAIN

My baby is sick this week, and it honestly hurts me to see her sick. The best part about her is that she always inevitably pushes through the pain and finds joy in play and wants to make others smile by being silly and funny. Even at two she has so much empathy, and I am in awe.

Seeing my sick little girl reminding of the innocence of children when they are in pain. They don’t see pain as this crippling force that can never go away. They see it as a setback, but they know they are safe with mama and everything will eventually be okay. For my daughter, she never lets it hold her back. She never allows it to ruin her day. In thinking about this, I wonder why we as women don’t practice this more often.

There are so many times while being a mother we are expected to just be okay with whatever life throws at us and move on. However, when life gives us moldy lemons, we can’t always make lemonade. Divorce, postpartum depression, family illnesses, and financial setbacks aren’t easy to “get over”. But what if we are looking at it the wrong way? Instead of looking at it as something that cripples us, it is a pain that won’t last forever or at least at the same intensity. What if we used our support system to remind us that it hurts now, but it’s going to be okay in the end? Our pain allows us to tell a new story and shapes our experiences, but it doesn’t have to define who we are or who we plan to become.

At the end of the day, sometimes thinking like a child isn’t a bad thing. They haven’t built up walls and defense mechanisms, they haven’t overanalyzed their lives or focused on their failures. They live freely, and when pain comes, they still push through. If we use our pain as opportunity and a story that can eventually foster new hope and change, we can see ourselves fully. And when we allow others to stand by us and support us through the pain, we allow them to see us as a whole being. When this happens, even moldy lemons can be turned into sweet lemonade.

Tiffany WicksComment